Saturday, June 29, 2013

Online dating site observations Jun 30

I logged into my Ok Cupid account and on the Welcome! page, it shows the recent activities of ALL men, not just guys living in Japan. On top of that list was this:

Q: Is a girl who's slept with 100 guys a bad person?
A: Yes
Explanation: “No decent woman could survive 100 sexual partners and maintain respect for herself or men in general.”


Too bad they don't ask if a guy who's slept with 100 girls is a bad person in the same question with A: Yes for girls, No for guys, B: Yes for guys, No for girls, C: Yes for Both, D: No for Both as answers. I'd really like to see what this judgmental asshole, whose ID is "teacher of life" in Japanese (the guy's a foreigner, btw) and probably in his late 40s would reply to that. Man or woman, it shouldn't matter how many sexual partners they've had in the past. What should matter is how they've been treating their partners, like they don't go hump and dump a girl and treat her as if she's some disposable towel.

From what I hear, the trend with college-aged girls in Japan is to have as many "boyfriends" as possible and some boast that they have over 20 (how they manage their time between said "boyfriends", school and sleep is a puzzle). If these girls keep up this pace, they'll clear the 100 mark before they graduate since it's unlikely the relationship with these "boyfriends" will last more than a month or two. Would that make them a bad person? Stupid and reckless yes, but bad? I don't think so. As they mature (if ever that's possible), they might get second thoughts or regrets over what they did while they were in college but odds are they'll look back and say "ah, the good 'ol days, when I was young and carefree".

On the flip side, if a guy who's close to my age, never been married, never really had a meaningful relationship, had an extremely low number of sexual partners, I'd be concerned if there's something wrong with the guy? I've known a guy or two who never got married til late in life since they didn't like to be tied down in a relationship, but they said that they fucked like bunnies whenever they got a chance and the storage room and conference room at their offices saw quite a bit of action.

In my matches over at Ok Cupid, 13 out of 37 don't have their profile filled out, yet 5 of them do have face pics on their profs, and out of the 13, 11 are listed as replies often. Wonder if emails they send out count as replies or if their replies are ones saying fuck off?  LOL

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Setting priorities

I rarely enter discussions where the topics are controversial. I have my own opinions and I'm not about to argue or defend them. It's my entitlement and it's not up to any others to tell me otherwise.

Since I'm usually bored at work, I read through the Yahoo News and I see that abortion is being the next hot  topic now that the gay marriage issue is starting to die down. Texas is moving to put more restrictions on abortion, which will practically ban the practice in the State.

I lean towards pro-choice. No woman goes to the clinic with glee to abort her child. It's a tough decision to make and a decision the woman has to live with for the rest of her life. I also believe that men should stay out of this argument unless if they're willing to actively prosecute the fathers who abandoned the pregnant woman to fend for herself.

Quit serving the churches, provide comprehensive education to all sexually active young people about prevention and birth control instead of lamely suggesting to abstain from sex, instill into the young men's minds that condoms are a must if they're not ready for fatherhood and to protect not only their sex partners but themselves as well, provide more than adequate care for the unwanted children that already exist in foster homes and orphanages, offer more government-funded alternatives to pregnant women who do not wish to or cannot keep the child, when a working solution to the existing problems are implemented, then start talking about further restricting a medical procedure that not only will terminate a life but also has the potential of causing permanent damage to the recipient.

While the state legislature is arguing about a topic that isn't necessarily a time-pressed issue, there was an article that due to teacher shortages in Dallas, kids aren't getting the education they need. There is a crisis in education right now. Why the haste in pushing a bill that would do more damage than good since all it will achieve is lawsuit after lawsuits and taxpayer's money is going to be used to defend the bill. Would the taxpayer's money not be better served in educating the children who, for better or for worse, are the nation's future?

Methinks the government of all levels start need to attack real problems instead of going after issues that'll get the politicians re-elected.

My 2 cents, for what it's worth.

Sunday, June 23, 2013

The world of online dating

A gal pal was telling me how she joined an online dating site and the types of questions they asked to find the "perfect match". I wasn't all that interested in the dating part, but I was curious as to see what kind of questions they asked, so I created a profile.

Boy was I surprised at how men would reach out to someone over on the other side of the world saying they're looking for ever-lasting love and serious relationships. Really??!! I know I'm not capable of keeping up a long-distance relationship and certainly am not delusional enough to even have an online relationship. I need to be able to actually meet the person to see if there's any connection and physical attraction before I even think about starting up any type of relationship.

It is irritating how some men will contact me without reading my profile and find it shocking that I'm not Japanese and call them out of the crap they tried to dish out.

I modified my profile to be really bitchy, so I haven't been getting all that many emails lately. LOL

After seeing rain pretty much all week, it was nice waking up to the sun and blue sky. I was reading another local blogger's post and she mentioned that it's supposed to be hot today. Hot day? Really? Awesome! Before I knew it, I was pulling out my bathing suit to hit the beach. It was still pretty cloudy and the wind was chilly while I was riding my scooter but it was clear enough to see Mt. Fuji off in the distance.

I got to the beach I usually go to in Hayama and since it was still early and it's the rainy season, the beach was deserted which suited me just fine. The water wasn't as cold as I thought it would be and it felt good wading through the clear shallow water. I went over to see if I could get a pic of the snails that have eyeballs peering out from under their shells to stare up at you. They were mighty obliging to get their pics taken. LOL I also got a shot of a little octopus scurrying into a new hiding place. In one of the pics, I loved the way the water reflected the clouds and the sun.

I found a little secluded spot with a deep pool and as I was standing still, there were a few little yellow and black striped fishies gathering around my fat thighs, taking a few nibbles here and there. They must've thought mmmmm! white meat!! LOL Luckily, they're teeny so I could barely feel them merrily nibbling away. I've been nibbled at by colorful fishies in Okinawa and it can sting! I'll bring some bread with me the next time I go snorkeling.

It started to get cloudy and a bit chilly so I finished up taking pics and headed back for home. I was at the beach for only an hour or so, but it still felt good. Can't wait for summer so I can hang out at the beach every chance I get!